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Unfulfilled life is hell

Last week, the following post took over as our #1 hit of October in our X Fitness social media campaign:

“Lack of fulfillment is the absence of meaningfulness along with the presence of meaningless filler. Fulfillment doesn’t just happen. It has to be worked for and then worked out. #soulofalifter #peace”

This is the fourth time in 2014 that the word “fulfillment” has been part of a #1 X Fitness post. The word ‘fulfillment’ strikes a chord with many people. It guarantees to get the most ‘likes’ for the month but I’m not sure what exactly is ‘liked’  about it. Is it the word ‘fulfillment’ itself that is liked? Does the act of posting about fulfillment get liked? Or is it liked for deeper reasons? Several conclusions can be reached:

  1. Searching for fulfillment is a big part of the human condition.
  2. Finding fulfillment is easier said than done.
  3. The unfulfilled life is hell.
  4. There are many unfulfilled people in this world.

The word ‘fulfillment’ contains two concepts that are important clues to why ‘fulfillment’ and ‘unfulfillment’ are so popular and unpopular, depending on perspective – ‘full’ and ‘fill.’ We are looking to be filled up fully with a full life. Conversely, we fear the empty life, the opposite of a filled-up fully-lived life.

The empty life scares the hell out of us because it feels like hell, which means that the empty life actually doesn’t scare the hell out of us. The empty life scares the hell into us. The unfulfilled life has so many causes, too many to count. But the main cause, the one right at the top of the list, is fear of the unknown. That’s the one that leads to the empty life. Fear of the unknown kills potential and buries it. Fear of the unknown confines you inside self-imposed limits. Stretching past limits becomes impossible when you’re scared of what’s on the other side of self-imposed limits. Whether it’s physical, intellectual, emotional, or spiritual limits, all limits do exactly the same thing – stunt your growth. When you stop growing, you grow old. Regardless of what you birth certificate reads, you can grow old at any age the moment you stop growing.

Today is the 39th anniversary of my first day as a police officer. It was the day after I quit high school. It was the day I got sworn in.  I quit being a cop 15 years later, in 1990, almost on the same date. Changing careers can scare the hell out of you to the point where you become paralyzed intellectually and emotionally. Changing careers is life-altering, one way or the other, good or bad. Perfect timing is the key. A change of career can’t be too early or too late. Most of all, it has to be for the right reason. I quit policing and never regretted it. Years later, I quit two more “dream” jobs for the same reason – my growth stunted. Not one career change has caused me hell. I have never felt one moment of regret after any of my career changes. The reason is that stunted growth hurts like hell. Stunted growth drains your heart and soul, leaving you empty. Unfulfilled.

The one constant throughout each career change has been working out – lifting and running. Careers change but working out didn’t. Working out has been my psychological and physical detox that cleansed all the toxicity and bullshit that workplaces pile onto you and into you. Working out is therapeutic, the most potent therapy that counteracts the side-effects of workplace poison.  October started my commitment to a higher level of working out to combat the forces of evil of dealing with assholes. I refuse to make the traditional excuses to rationalize living within self-imposed limits and under the control of bosses, management, and anyone else who is hell-bent on robbing you of joy and spirit. For the rest of 2014, my workout music will return to the basics. Metallica always has been and always will be the very best workout music. Nothing is close. Not now, not ever. A link to Metallica’s best is after my signature.

This is a copyrighted excerpt from my new book called “Midnight Shift from Hell – Lifter’s High, Part 2.” Don’t waste your potential. Don’t give up by giving in to the forces of evil that will drag you into the hell-hole of apathy. Keep Lifting.


Gino Arcaro M.Ed., B.Sc., Level 3 NCCP (Nat’l Coaching Certification Program)

Head coach – Niagara X-men football

Owner – X Fitness Inc.

Gino Arcaro is a widely published author. His website, blog, Youtube channel, and list of books are at:

His books include:

4th & hell: seasons 1-5, Soul of a Lifter, SWAT Offense, SWAT Defense, X Fitness Workout System, and a 3 business book series called Soul of an Entrepreneur

He also has written 20 editions of 6 law enforcement academic textbooks. A new 8-volume interrogation book series will be released in 2014. And just released, a new children’s book called “BE FIT – DON’T QUIT.” His latest book on human potential called “Hashtag Peace” is at the editing stage. He just finished another book called “Lifter’s High.” Both will be released soon.

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