The toughest relationship to build – Don’t ignore simplicity

One of the most complicated relationships to build is your relationship with your IQ. The type of relationship you build with your IQ determines how long you search for #peace, how far you search for #peace, and how successful you search for #peace. And it determines performance and results in whatever you’re trying to accomplish, mind, body, and soul.

Underestimating your IQ and overestimating your IQ are both easy. The tough part is nailing it. What complicates your relationship with your IQ is complication. Whether it’s working out in the gym, working out your brain, working out your business, or working out your career, complicating things is the leading cause of a messy relationship with your IQ. Needlessly complicating things has 4 causes:

  1. The need to feel smart.
  2. Frustration from results taking too long.
  3. Addiction to drama.
  4. Gullibility.

Complications mess up your relationship with your IQ by making you question your confidence. The more complicated you make things, the more confused you get. The more confused you get, the weaker you get. Left unchecked, you quit. You drop out. You resign yourself to watching other people reach success and reach their dreams while you reach inner hell.

Here’s the solution – don’t ignore simplicity. I have lost count of how many times I’ve been asked how to lose weight, build muscle, lift more, eat less, get hired, not get fired, change careers, start a business, write a book, getting a scholarship, sign a pro contract, and just plain how to be happy. The answer is simple – simplicity. Don’t ignore simplicity. The problem with simplicity is that it’s not sexy, glamorous, attractive, or exciting. Simplicity looks like too much like work because simplicity is the ‘grind of the basics.’ It’s The Process that requires you to master simple basics but mastering simple basics is not simple. In fact, it’s hell because you have to spill your guts. Gut-spilling ranks near the top of the list of things that are hated. The hatred of spilling guts to master the simple basics stems from the fear of discomfort. If it’s not pleasurable, the temptation is to run like hell from it. Your love-hate relationships determine your mindset which determines your performance. It’s that simple.

Ignoring simplicity is easy for drama addicts because complications lead to never-ending drama that satisfies the drama addiction better than anything else. Complication makes you feel smart because of the myth that if it’s complicated, it must make you smarter. Then there’s the gullibility factor. When you hate the grind needed to master the basics, you become frustrated and susceptible to the leading cause of broken focus – bullshit. Susceptibility to bullshit makes you believe anything. When you’re gullible, you will easily be swayed away from the basics of simplicity.

Beware of bullshitters. Bullshitting has reached the crisis stage. An epidemic. Bullshitting has become a national pastime. Believing bullshit weakens you. No matter what type of bullshit it is, believing bullshit drains your strength. I’ve posted a video from our X Fitness Youtube Channel that will inspire you to not ignore simplicity. The link is after my signature. This is a copyrighted excerpt from my new book that I’m writing tonight called “Unknown Problem: Unit to Back – Lifter’s high part 3.” #keepitsimple #keepitreal


Gino Arcaro M.Ed., B.Sc., Level 3 NCCP (Nat’l Coaching Certification Program)

Head coach – Niagara X-men football

Owner – X Fitness Inc.

Gino Arcaro is a widely published author. His website, blog, Youtube channel, and list of books are at:

His books include:

4th & hell: seasons 1-5, Soul of a Lifter, SWAT Offense, SWAT Defense, X Fitness Workout System, and a 3 business book series called Soul of an Entrepreneur

He also has written 20 editions of 6 law enforcement academic textbooks. A new 8-volume interrogation book series will be released in 2014. And just released, a new children’s book called “BE FIT – DON’T QUIT.” His latest book on human potential called “Hashtag Peace” is at the editing stage. He just finished another book called “Lifter’s High.” Both will be released soon.

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