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The A-word: the most dangerous word, the most dangerous person.

There are countless dangerous words. But there’s one at the top of my list that I have devoted four decades to remove it from the vocabularies of those who I’ve coached and taught.

Here’s real-life lesson #1,005 that I‘ve taught to football players and assistant coaches for 40 years and college law enforcement students for two decades – don’t let it get to your head. Quadruple meaning.

First meaning: Protect your head physically. High-risk sports and professions pose an extreme risk to your head. Your head is vulnerable when you play contact sports or work in contact jobs. Your head is a target for the enemy, on any field, in any field where violence is a fact of real-life, legally or illegally. Broken skulls, broken necks, broken brain cells are all life-threatening. They threaten your actual existence and quality of life.

Second meaning: Protect your head intellectually. Be a life-long learner. Never stop learning. Stop learning, stop earning. The moment you stop learning, you IQ drops. Then you and your team drop into dead-last.

Third meaning: Protect you head psychologically. Guard your mind from junk. Guard your mind from air pollution. Depression and mental health are serious. Protect your mind from depressing news and depressing people. I realize it’s almost impossible to isolate yourself from the garbage news that fill all your screens but like with junk food, you have to be cognizant of what goes in your system. Fill your mind with junk and the same thing happens when you fill your body with junk – constipation, bloating, and excessive fat of the mind.

Fourth meaning: Protect your ego. Size matters. An oversize ego doesn’t fit anywhere. A XXXL ego is unsightly. An super-size ego gets in the way. An oversize ego will burst. Don’t let winning titles get to your head. Don’t let professional titles get to your head. Don’t let your head swell. Don’t let your head get so big that it becomes a heavy weight to carry. It’s easy to let it get to your head – titles, fame, celebrity, status, salary. It’s easy for self-importance to take over your mind, body, and soul. Be careful of an inflated ego. It will turn you into an asshole. I have warned football players not to let glory get to their head. I have warned college law enforcement students of the most dangerous word in society – authority. Authority can blow your ego up until you turn into an asshole. A-words are dangerous – authority and assholes.

Authority can make people crazy. Authority can make you lose your mind, literally and figuratively. Authority can fool you into believing you are something special when you’re not. Authority can turn you into an asshole, an over-officious jerk who thinks that other humans are second-rate humans and lower. Authority can make you evil. Authority can make your heartless. Authority can darken your soul. Authority can make you a threat to society. Authority can make you dangerous.

The word ‘authority’ must be removed from laws and from the dictionary. Many people can’t handle authority. They confuse authority with serving and protecting. Social responsibility and accountability is not synonymous with authority. If you want to be a public servant, you need a Servant Heart. You need a Servant Mind. And most of all, you need a Servant Soul. Be a Servant Soul, not an asshole. Titles are lost. If you have a title of authority, you will lose that title when you quit, retire, or get fired. If you define yourself by your title and your authority, you will lose it when you lose it. You will lose your mind. You will lose your true self. You will sink into darkness. You will sink into depression. You will be empty. You will lose purpose. You will become a bitter wo/man, lonely, afraid, frustrated, isolated, and held in contempt by those you didn’t give a shit about when you held the title and authority.

I have taught football players and college law enforcement students Real-Life Lesson #2,509 – Be humble or tumble. Humility or futility. Authoritative arrogance is a social disease. It causes harm psychologically and physically, attacking the victim’s mind, body, and soul. There was no room on college transcripts for humility or arrogance. There was no mark for being an asshole or not being an asshole. College transcripts are the same as football scoreboards – they tell you the numbers but not the whole story. What matters is not the final score but how you got there.

Here’s an excerpt from Soul of a Lifter: you have two choices – you can be a soul-lifter or a soul-killer. The difference is conditioning. How you’ve been conditioned will reveal in how much you can lift in the present. There is no greater reward than soul-lifting by putting up ladders for others. Nothing compares – not material possessions, not immaterial possession, not titles. That burning feeling in your gut may either be indigestion or the burning hell of wasted potential packed deep inside you, waiting to be released. Underachieving is hell. Underachieving always catches up to you and will not let go until you make a conscious decision to dig up your buried God-given gifts and talents. Every player I’ve coached and every student I’ve taught heard the same message over and over – underachieving is hell. It will burn you up unless you change. Prevention is the key. There are a number of strategies that will prevent the hell of underachieving. The list is too long for this blog article.

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Blessings and all good things.


Gino Arcaro M.Ed., B.Sc., Level 3 NCCP (Nat’l Coaching Certification Program)

Head coach – Niagara X-men football

Owner – X Fitness Inc.


Gino Arcaro is a widely published author. His website, blog, Youtube channel, and list of SWAT FOOTBALL Books are at:

His books include:

4th & hell: seasons 1 and 2, Soul of a Lifter, SWAT No-Huddle Offense, SWAT Defense, SWAT Tackling Video & e-book,  X Fitness Workout System, and a 3 business book series called Soul of an Entrepreneur

He also has written 20 editions of 6 law enforcement academic textbooks. A new 8-volume interrogation book series will be released in 2014. And just released, a new children’s book called “BE FIT – DON’T QUIT.” The first stage of his new Blunt Talk e-books is now for sale. He is currently writing three non-fiction novels book called The Mystery of Murder: Working with the dead, Midnight Shift from Hell, and Another Bar Fight. Another book on human potential called “Hashtag Peace” is at the editing stage.




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