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Talking to yourself

Conventional wisdom teaches us that talking to yourself is a symptom of insanity. It isn’t. Our inner dialogue determines where we end up – first place, dead last, or out of the game into a retirement village.

Inner dialogue is the war of words in the fight for our minds and souls. How we talk to ourselves determines successes and failures by whatever definitions you choose. The bad news is that our inner dialogue is deeply affected by the bombardment of bad news that attacks our minds on a daily, or sometimes minute-by-minute, basis. The good news is that we don’t have to listen. And we can control our inner dialogue.

Bad news is not created equal. There’s the high-level full-fledged depressing news broadcast on TV and radio. Generally, the first 3 minutes of any news broadcast will sink your mind into darkness. It’s worse if you’re immune to it. Then there’s the mid-level misery-virus spread by those afflicted with gloom and doom. Misery is contagious. The virus travels at the speed of sound. Check your Facebook news feed after you’re done reading this article. Or your Twitter feed. Or your emails. Or your text messages. Or your voice mail if you still know people who contact you live and alive. Count the misery. Better yet, don’t. Don’t expose yourself to more misery than is necessary because misery-detoxification isn’t easy since misery attacks your entire system, every fiber of body, mind, and soul. Then there’s the low-level pessimism, the routine garbage that’s dumped on you when people mistake you for a toxic waste site.

Because this is Lent, please don’t confuse this as not giving a shit about other people’s problems. I believe we were put on this Earth to help people and be helped by others especially when we’re at our worst. The type of misery I’m referring to is the type that the passer doesn’t want help with. If the passer of misery just wants to throw junk to the receiver for the exclusive purpose of dragging the receiver into the same slimy pit as the passer, then misery-spreading has no redeeming value. However, misery-sharing is perfectly acceptable when we’re asking for a solution. “Please help me escape from hell,” is entirely different than, “Let me sink you into my hell.”

The biggest difference between winning and losing by whatever definition you choose, is acceptance and rejection. What we accept and what we reject determines our won-loss record professionally and personally.

The worst thing to accept is bad news. Here’s a sports example. A superstar player quits your team. Two choices: #1. Expect a losing season and accept it. Or, #2. Reject the adversity by saying good-bye, offer your best wishes, and say, “Your loss.”

Bad news, bad mood. Good news, good mood.

On another note, here’s another top 100 Classic Rock back-to-basics workout song. The link is after my signature. The song is a masterpiece that works wonders right after you are attacked by misery-spreading that darkens your soul. May we all lift forever. May we all be souls of lifters forever. Lifting a soul takes the same effort as darkening one.


Gino Arcaro M.Ed., B.Sc., NCCP Level 3
Head coach – Niagara X-men football
head coach- Robert Bateman High School – GO WILD.
Owner – X Fitness Inc.

Gino Arcaro is a widely published author. His website, blog, Youtube channel, and list of books are at: His books include: 4th & hell: seasons 1-5, Soul of a Lifter, SWAT Offense, SWAT Defense, X Fitness Workout System, and a 3 business book series called Soul of an Entrepreneur . He also has written 20 editions of 6 law enforcement academic textbooks. A new 8-volume interrogation book series will be released in the spring of 2014. And later this month, a new children’s book called “BE FIT – DON’T QUIT.”

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