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Piling on – triple meaning.

Here’s Real-life Lesson #1,911 I’ve taught football players for 40 years and college law enforcement students for two decades – don’t pile it on. Triple meaning.

The first meaning is a football meaning. Piling on is a major penalty in football. It’s illegal to pile onto the ball-carrier after he’s been knocked down. Piling on is dangerous to physical health because the flattened ball-carrier is defenseless and vulnerable. Piling on is a risk to cause serious injury because the flattened ball-carrier has already been the victim of getting hammered legally. It’s illegal to pile on when the runner is down and out.

Second meaning – don’t pile on with criticism when a person has been knocked down by failure. Losing flattens you. Losing knocks the hell out of you. When failure flattens you, you need to be lifted in mind, body, and soul. The last thing you need is for more criticism to be piled on like excessive weight on an Olympic bar after the bar crushes you. If you can’t be a soul-lifter, don’t make it worse and pile on more than a person can handle. It’s immoral to pile on when someone is down and out.

Third meaning – don’t pile on food. Size matters. Portion size is directly related to waist size. The larger your portion size, the larger your waist size. I have seen athletes and students disfigure themselves by losing control of their appetite and letting their appetite control them. The more waist sizes grew, the less their chances grew of making the cut to the next level by turning pro in the dream job or their dream sport.  To help athletes and players, I reminded them of my #Nutrition Rule #3 – video at:

The last week of the year never changes. It’s the same ever year.  Social media is flooded with fairy tales about New Year’s Resolutions. The fitness industry obsessively posts warning, workouts, and diets by all the self-professed experts. Here’s what I reminded athletes and students about New Year’s Resolutions:

The difference between winning and losing is how much you pile on. Not piling on takes disciplined self-control. It’s easy for all the self-help experts to preach the virtue of discipline but it’s not easy developing sustained discipline. I’ve learned that the level of discipline needed to achieve your best shape in mind, body, and soul doesn’t just happen. It starts at the top – dual meaning. With mindset and leadership. They’re connected. You need coaching and mentoring to develop the psychological strength to build deep-rooted positive habits that form the core of a disciplined mind, body, and soul. You can’t do it on your won. No team can. You can try but no team will ever reach full potential without the leadership of a coach and mentor.

Undisciplined teams end up dead-last. The undisciplined grow only in weakness, not strength. Weakness manifests with the same easily identifiable symptoms – complaining, whining, and excuse-making that keep growing along with frustration, bitterness, and regret. Then you grow old prematurely and depress other people with air pollution caused by the unnecessary noise of contempt and hate spread out into the environment, fueled by the fire of the inner hell caused by unfulfillment and underachievement.

Teams that drop to dead-last and get stuck there, pile it on with the three elements of the Loser’s Language – lie, alibi, and deny. All lies, alibis, and denials make exactly the same noise on every losing team – whining, complaining, and excuse-making. It all sounds like hell. There’s a big gap between first place and last place. The only way out of dead-last is to lift your way out. Losing teams dig themselves deeper while winning teams dig deeper. You are blessed with the exercise of free will – you can lift your teammates or depress them. You can be a soul-lifter or toxic material. You can add life to a team or kill it. You can dig deeper or bury your team by digging it deeper in the hell-hole of dead-last. It all depends on whether your soul is alive or dead.

My toughest challenge as a football coach and college professor has always been to teach the virtue of soul-lifting. Every year, rookies and freshman brought F’d-up attitudes to their athletic and academic teams. They didn’t know better, literally and figuratively. They learned their F’d-up attitudes through poor conditioning. The good news is that any habit can change. The bad news is that psychological re-wiring requires a demanding process. Those who change, stop piling it on. Those who don’t, keep piling it on and get piled on.

This is a copyrighted excerpt from a new book I’m writing called “The Mystery of Murder- Working with the Dead.” It’s a true story about the effects of working with two kinds of dead people – the officially dead and unofficially dead.  An audio version of this blog will be a future episode on Blunt Talk Podcast, compliments of X Fitness.  X Fitness and Blunt Talk Podcast are committed to lift in body, mind, and soul. X Fitness and Blunt Talk Podcast are committed to the celebration of Good Inspirational News Only. There’s enough depressing news. We won’t add to it. Good Inspirational News Only. All 135 episodes of Blunt Talk Podcast are free, permanently archived downloads compliments of X Fitness. Every guest has a Soul of a Lifter. Guaranteed to lift. Blunt Talk Podcast is blessed and grateful to have reached our 67th country in less than two years. Here is the link to Blunt Talk Podcast:

Blessings & all good things.


Gino Arcaro M.Ed., B.Sc., Level 3 NCCP (Nat’l Coaching Certification Program)

Head coach – Niagara X-men football

Owner – X Fitness Inc.


Gino Arcaro is a widely published author. His website, blog, Youtube channel, and list of SWAT FOOTBALL Books are at:

His books include:

4th & hell: seasons 1 and 2, Soul of a Lifter, SWAT No-Huddle Offense, SWAT Defense, SWAT Tackling Video & e-book,  X Fitness Workout System, and a 3 business book series called Soul of an Entrepreneur

He also has written 20 editions of 6 law enforcement academic textbooks. A new 8-volume interrogation book series will be released in 2014. And just released, a new children’s book called “BE FIT – DON’T QUIT.” The first stage of his new Blunt Talk e-books is now for sale. He is currently writing three non-fiction novels book called The Mystery of Murder: Working with the dead, Midnight Shift from Hell, and Another Bar Fight. Another book on human potential called “Hashtag Peace” is at the editing stage.




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