You will never escape competition for as long as you’re alive. Jobs, promotions, business, sports, even your personal life all involves competition. Here’s what I posted on Facebook, Linkedin, and Twitter today:
Coaching tip #1 – Never fear competition. Go up against the very best. Force them to play the full game full out and see who quits first. That’s our Niagara X-men motto. It’s never failed to work out. www.soulofalifter.com
The reason I posted this is to help out because competition scares some people. Competition is scary only if you give instant credibility to your competition. Credibility has to be earned, not instantly awarded. Growing up, I was taught to give instant credibility to all professionals. If they have a title, they must know what they’re talking about. They must be competent. They must be experts and, well…professionals. It was all bullshit. Instant credibility is another definition of insanity. Giving credibility automatically without evidence is a form of madness. It leads to pure gullibility. You will fall for anything.
In my Criminal Investigation textbook, I wrote a 10-point credibility evaluation model. It’s a step-by-step decision-making model that helps you decide whether a witness has strong credibility or weak credibility. It’s structured bullshit-detection. The 10-point evaluation model lets you sniff out the bullshit instead of falling into it. You can apply it to any type of credibility test in any field.
We evaluate credibility on a daily basis. Often, moment-by-moment. We spend a lot of our lives trying to figure out who to trust, who to distrust, who has a clue, and who is clueless. It’s easy to get in the habit of winging it by attaching all the wrong criteria for credibility. For example, “S/he’s a nice enough guy” often passes for justification to believe someone or not. So do job titles. It’s easy to fall in the trap that a certain title is the equivalent of competence. It isn’t. Job titles alone do not prove strong credibility. High credibility needs back-up. Prove it.
During my 15 year police career between 1975-1990, I learned professional paranoia because of the continuous bullshit you’re exposed to in law enforcement. In my book Soul of a Lifter, I quantified lying by estimating the number of times I was lied to during my police career. Then I added up the estimated lies I received during my college professor/program coordinator job between 1990-2010. Then I added the amount of lies I’ve received as a football coach during 40 seasons. That’s why I wrote the 10-point credibility evaluation to remind myself never, ever to award instant credibility to anyone without back-up. No evidence, no credibility. Think with your mind, not your heart and you’ll never get heart-broken.
But that’s easier said than done. I still haven’t got the credibility test down pat. Just when I think I’m getting pretty good at it, I think with my heart instead of my mind. That’s why competition is never to be feared. Football taught me to never, ever fear any Goliath because any Goliath can get knocked out. No exception. Football taught me a mindset – force the competition to work like hell for the full game until some quits. Floor it. Don’t brake, don’t break. If you never brake-down, you’ll never break down. Guaranteed. You only get run over when you’re slowing down or coming to a dead stop. The difference between getting flattened and flattening the opponent is momentum. Momentum makes you a force. Inertia gets you flattened.
I just decided to include this article in a book that I’m writing tonight called 4th & hell – season 4. I was writing book 4 of Soul of an Entrepreneur but I put that on hold because 4th & hell – season 4 is therapeutic. My football team, the Niagara X-men, has received two offers this week from two American colleges to play them in October & November of this year. I have to get in the mood to fund and coach the team because football pisses me off at the moment. I need to pick up momentum.
Gino Arcaro M.Ed., B.Sc., NCCP Level 3
owner – X Fitness Inc.
head coach – Niagara X-men football team