Making smart energy choices depends on how you invest free will.

What we make of ourselves depends on what we make of others. Who we are and what we become is shaped by what we shape in others, both good and bad. We all have the same two choices – lift people or down them. Pick them up or drag them down into the abyss. We can choose to be a blessing or a curse to those we meet. It all depends on what’s piled up inside. It’s easy to get filled with poison because real-life specializes in injecting poison into our lives – into our minds, bodies, and souls.

It’s fashionable to urge others to stay away from negative people, without looking in the mirror.  ‘Stay away from draining people’ is a survival-rule that has a dual meaning – stop getting drained by others but stop draining others as well. If you have special high-energy people in your life that you can feed off, you’re blessed. If you don’t, you can be blessed by being a high-energy person that others can feed off. Feeding off energy is a matter of survival.  Being drained of energy kills the spirit. Being filled with energy rejuvenates the spirit. Energy is not free. There’s a high cost of energy but it’s worth the expense.

The worst part of energy drainage is when there’s no return on the investment. If you’re draining your energy for no return, your energy is not only being wasted, you’re on a path of underachievement that will lead to one of the worst social plagues that kills spirit and souls – regret. I have warned thousands of football players who I’ve coached that their playing career is short. It’s a window of opportunity that slams shut at warp-speed. I warn them that if they piss away that chance, they will later live with regret as time passes because their playing career doesn’t have a replay button. I’ve warned thousands of college law enforcement students who I have taught about the same message – don’t piss away your chance at academic achievement because someone else won’t and they will get what you want. No matter how many times I’ve warned people to make the most of their opportunity, many end up living in regret, trapped in a deep inner hell of regret for throwing away a chance to achieve their dreams. Years later, ex-players and ex-students admit their regret. They spill their guts about how they wish they had spilled their guts when they had the chance. There’s not much more depressing than hearing so many people admit they are suffering with regret about not doing more. I’ve encouraged ex-players to lecture current players at practice about the pain and suffering of their regret as a good deed, a public service that could change a small part of the world by convincing those in the present not to repeat the sad history by those in the past. Every speech by a regret-sufferer has been powerful. It’s therapeutic. Cathartic. But sad and depressing nonetheless.

2014 is down to the 2-minute warning but the difference between real-life and football is stop-time. Real-life has no clock stoppages. Real-life clock management is merciless. The best you can do is #KeepLifting. When New Year’s Day rolls around, many will make empty resolutions that will be broken shortly after they are made. There’s a reason why New Year’s Eve Resolutions are broken that you won’t read in fairy tale stories or pink bubble social media posts. The truth about making lasting change goes deeper than empty resolution made during a New Year’s Day hangover.

Lasting change is not only possible, it’s essential because all of us are continuously tested with real-life challenges that try to break our will. Those who know the secret to making lasting change will separate from the rest. Without making lasting change, you will sit in the stands watching others play out their dreams. The beauty of free will is that it leaves you in charge. You’re in control of whether you stay in the game or drop out of sight.  It all boils down to making smart energy choices. Making smart energy choices depends on how you invest free will.

Tonight’s  #1 workout song is linked after my signature.  #BlessingsToAll #BuonAnno


Gino Arcaro M.Ed., B.Sc., Level 3 NCCP (Nat’l Coaching Certification Program)

Head coach – Niagara X-men football

Owner – X Fitness Inc.

Gino Arcaro is a widely published author. His website, blog, Youtube channel, and list of books are at:

His books include:

4th & hell: seasons 1-5, Soul of a Lifter, SWAT Offense, SWAT Defense, X Fitness Workout System, and a 3 business book series called Soul of an Entrepreneur

He also has written 20 editions of 6 law enforcement academic textbooks. A new 8-volume interrogation book series will be released in 2014. And just released, a new children’s book called “BE FIT – DON’T QUIT.” His latest book on human potential called “Hashtag Peace” is at the editing stage. He just finished another book called “Lifter’s High.” Both will be released soon.

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