Nothing will make your life a deeper hell than an incompetent boss. By conservative estimate, I have had over 1,000 direct bosses and over 10,000 indirect bosses counting the entire chains of command during 45 years of work. Only five bosses were unforgettable. The rest were forgettable and regrettable.
Iâ€™ve been blessed to have had dream jobs but I have worked for some of the biggest assholes that you can imagine â€“ incompetent small-minded little people who canâ€™t run their own lives but want to run the lives of others.Â Contrary to popular myth, leadership is not complicated. Itâ€™s simple. Great leaders transform people. Great leaders are soul lifters. Ordinary leaders donâ€™t do either. Only five bosses Iâ€™ve had were transformational, they changed my life and raised my level of consciousness.Â The rest just held a title and had a higher pay grade. Some just existed. They told me when I could take vacation, my days off, where to park my car, and what time my lunch was. Only five taught me how to do my job and do it better each day. They taught me how not to get killed, how not to get fired, and how to do a job above and beyond what I was getting paid, or what benefits and pension I was entitled to.
Those five knew the difference between telling off and mouthing off. Both telling off and mouthing off are 1970â€™s and 80â€™s street-talk. They sound the same but thereâ€™s a big difference.Â Telling off is blunt talkÂ â€“ honesty with the singular purpose of making you better. Mouthing off is noise without purpose;Â air pollution that contaminates the environment. Mouthing off tears you down instead of building you up. The only five transformational bosses Iâ€™ve worked for knew the secret of how to tell a person offÂ â€“Â kick him in the ass and still make him feel important. They did what coaches do â€“ spill their guts for you. They donâ€™t lie to you. They donâ€™t mouth off.
Life is too short to work for an incompetent boss, but working for an asshole boss does has a purpose. Asshole bosses did what I couldnâ€™t do on my own â€“ convince me to get the hell out of my job and change careers. Asshole bosses were responsible for me starting two businesses from scratch, while in the prime of my career. Donâ€™t let anyone bullshit you about how easy it is to quit your job because it isnâ€™t. Quitting your job to start a business is one of the top 4 life-altering decisions that can make you or break you. It can lift your soul or kill your soul. I never have and never will take seriously all the self-professed experts who write and lecture you to quit your jobâ€¦find your passionâ€¦do what you love. I never have and never will romanticize quitting your job to become your own boss. Itâ€™s a personal decision that takes deep soul-searching. Listen to your heart. And listen to asshole bosses.
Last weekend, I had to break an addiction I’ve had since childhoodÂ â€“ reading the sports page. I had enough. I saw a head coach mouth off to one of his assistants in front of their team and a huge audienceÂ â€“ live on TV. â€œWhat an Fâ€™n asshole,â€ I thought. Thereâ€™s no amount of money in the world that is worth being belittled. I don’t need to read about these bosses anymore.
My new book, Midnight Shift from Hell, focuses on your biggest decision today â€“ to become more or less. This blog, which contains excerpts from my book, will be available on an upcoming episode of myÂ Blunt Talk Podcast.Â Blunt Talk Podcast has been privileged to have had 112 guests in the past 17 months. Each one is a soul-lifter. All episodes are free, permanently archived downloads compliments of X Fitness. Every episode includes an opening motivational speech and a “Top 1000 Workout Song of the Week.”
Each guest, each episode is guaranteed to lift. X Fitness is committed to lift, to the celebration of Good Inspirational News Only. Thereâ€™s enough depressing news. We wonâ€™t add to it.Â The greatest reward is soul-lifting. People have lifted you up, now itâ€™s your turn to do the same. When someone is broken down or broken up, lift them. Encourage them to break through the obstacles that are limiting them.Â
Blessings & all good things.
Gino Arcaro M.Ed., B.Sc., Level 3 NCCP (Natâ€™l Coaching Certification Program)
Football Head coach â€“ Niagara X-Men Football
Gym OwnerÂ â€“Â X Fitness Welland Inc.
Podcast HostÂ â€“ BLUNT TALK PODCAST www.blunttalk.libsyn.com
Gino Arcaro is a widely published author. Currently, he is finishing another book in his non-fiction series: Mystery of Murder: Working with the Dead. All published books are available on onÂ www.Amazon.com and www.Chapters/Indigo.ca, in both soft cover and eBook format. Additionally, his website,Â www.ginoarcaro.com features his books including:
Football coaching and non-fiction books:Â SWAT System: Offense and Defense,Â SWAT Tackling Video (with accompanying eBook), andÂ 4th & Hell: Season One and Season Two
Business Books:Â Selling H.E.L.L. in Hell, True Confessions, andÂ eBooks:Â Soul of Selling,Â and,Â Real Business Relationships = Sales
Fat Loss Book:Â Fat Losing
Workout System:Â eXplode: The X Fitness System
Motivational Books:Â Soul of a Lifter, andÂ eBooks:Â The Pledge, and, The Focus
Children’s Books:Â Be Fit Don’t Quit,Â and,Â The Beauty of a Dream
Policing Textbooks:Â Arcaro’s Interrogation Case Law