September 11, 2018
Caught in The Trap
You read a motivational post. Press like. Write a comment – ‘Yes, so true.’ Then you check to see who else liked it. Next, you share it and check every 20 minutes to count likes. Getting enough likes brightens your mood. Not enough likes darkens your mood. You keep checking and hoping for more likes hoping to get a boost, a shot of adrenaline, something to make you feel better, feel more ...July 14, 2018
3 definitions of insanity
Here’s Real-life Lesson#5889 I’ve taught football players for 40 years and college law enforcement students for 2 decades: another definition of insanity is doing nothing and expecting something. Here’s another definition of insanity: do nothing big and expect something big. Here’s another: do nothing big and expect to get big. Athletic Darwinism and Academic Darwinism ...July 7, 2018
Turn on the switch
Every human is responsible for doing as much as possible to make big things happen for others. That’s been my main coaching/teaching message to students & athletes for 43 years. I work out everyday to feel fireworks, to feel something more than the ass-dragging dead-life of going to a job you hate, of doing what is not in your heart, of fighting with people who have too much ...July 6, 2018
Breakthroughs won’t just happen
Your breakthrough will happen when you break unproductive habits. That’s Real-life Lesson #6387 I’ve taught football players for 40 years and college law enforcement students for 2 decades. Your breakthrough will happen when you get strong enough. Your breakthrough will have happen when you believe enough. Your breakthrough will happen when you become tough enough. Your ...July 5, 2018
10-90 Rule of Happiness
The 10-90 Rule governs happiness. Over 90% put on a happy face on social media but are brutally unhappy deep down. Superficial and artificial happiness has the same cause – mismatch. The 3 top mismatches are: 1. Not being who you want to be. 2. Not doing what you truly want to do. 3. Not doing it with who you want to do it with. The leading cause of mismatches is The Trap, the dark hole ...
June 18, 2018
True teams bleed for each other
Blood makes you related. Bleeding together makes you relevant. Bleeding together bonds you. Shedding blood for each other makes you family. Bleeding together physically or psychologically makes you a team for life. True teams fight for each other, not with each other. True teams build each other up. True teams lift each other. True teams spill guts for each other and with each other. True ...June 11, 2018
new book excerpt
Writing a book is the intellectual equivalent of working out because they share 3 common elements: 1. exertion 2. isolation 3. determination You have to disconnect and spill your guts even when your mind tries to convince you to do something else. I’ve been asked for tips about how to write a book during the past 25 years of my writing career. I’ve decided to share excerpts that ...The most misused word – ‘team.’
The most misused word in the English language is ‘team.’ A true team is a Joint Forces effort by each team member that exponentially lifts each other’s performance. Exponential Lifting is an X Factor, a multiplying element of tangible and intangible qualities that transforms the minds, bodies, and souls of every individual. A team is not a assembly of people who have to meet ...
May 14, 2018
Work less, win less.
Here’s Real-Life Lesson #3,827 that I’ve taught football players for 40 years and college law enforcement students for 2 decades – work less, win less. It’s impossible to get better at something by doing less of it. It’s impossible to throw farther by throwing less. It’s impossible to tackle safer by tackling less. It’s impossible to block harder by ...May 6, 2018
Follow or lead
There are 3 landmark studies that prove at least 66% of people are conformists – followers who will contradict their happiness, true self, values, and beliefs just to fit in and be liked even if it causes inner conflict. These studies prove that at least two-thirds of people don’t have a mind of their own. Actually, its higher than 66%. Its 90%. Less than 10% have the strength of ...March 25, 2018
2 kinds of people in your life
There are only 2 kinds of people in your life – those who turn your mush to muscle in mind, body, and soul. And those who turn your muscle to mush. That’s it. Nothing in between. You’re never stuck in the middle. You are on one side or the other, depending on who is on your side and who is not. I’ve hammered the same message to athletes & students for decades ...March 24, 2018