Here’s research I conducted during the past month of September. I posted 64 comments on social media during September. The top-rated was the following post:
“Being let down is easier than being lifted up. Those who lift you have a value that can’t be measured. Those who bring you down teach lessons of what not to do and who not to be. #soulofalifter #peace”
It was our top post for September on all 4 social media sites – Facebook, Twitter, Linkedin, Google-plus. That post ended up comfortably in first place all by itself. Here are my conclusions that I reached:
- The reason I posted it was personal experience. September brought out the worst in people more than in any month in 2014. But it also brought out extreme good. Unfortunately, a balance wasn’t struck. Being let down won in September.
- The popularity of the post showed that being let down in September was wide-spread.
- People definitely are searching to be lifted.
- A premium is placed on those who lift us.
- We all need to be reminded not to be assholes just like how some people are assholes to us.
Not being an asshole is at the top of my to-do list for October. It always has been a challenge and always will be a challenge because one of the toughest things in life is not being an asshole in return to those who are assholes to us. It doesn’t get easier. Turning the other cheek is never easy. It takes a lot of hard work. I feel guilty like hell during Mass every time I’m reminded what Jesus taught – “Love thy neighbor/neighbour as yourself.” – Mark 12:31
Mass is an emotional roller-coaster. Proverbs 13:20 teaches us that assholes are harmful – “Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm.” Then John 13:34 counters with, “Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.” Then, Proverbs 26 comes back with, “Just as snow should not fall in summer, nor rain at harvest time, so people should not honor/honour a fool.” Dealing with assholes is never easy but it is easy to ignore when we act like assholes. It takes serious work and effort to ignore assholes but not ignore ourselves when we take out turn.
When I posted the number one comment of September, I had one thing in mind – “That’s it, I’m done with assholes.” No more. Zero tolerance. But the truth is, it won’t happen. Just like it won’t happen to us.
This is an excerpt from my new book that I’m writing tonight called Lifter’s High part 2 – Midnight Shift from Hell. It’s a sequel to Lifter’s High Part 1 – Working with the Dead. Both books will be released in the near future but in the meantime, there’s been another release. Both books are cathartic. Every workout in September was cathartic, except the workouts on September 13 and September 22. Those workouts worked out great for the physical burn and physical pump but it didn’t purge the rest. My goal for October is next-level catharsis. I’ve made up my mind that there are other places to go during a workout. The good news is there is unlimited space and place. The bad news is there’s no easy way to get there. It takes some heavy lifting. The link for my top workout song for October is after my signature. #KeepLifting #LoveThyNeighbor/Neighbour
Gino Arcaro M.Ed., B.Sc., Level 3 NCCP (Nat’l Coaching Certification Program)
Head coach – Niagara X-men football
Owner – X Fitness Inc.
Gino Arcaro is a widely published author. His website, blog, Youtube channel, and list of books are at: www.ginoarcaro.com
His books include:
4th & hell: seasons 1-5, Soul of a Lifter, SWAT Offense, SWAT Defense, X Fitness Workout System, and a 3 business book series called Soul of an Entrepreneur
He also has written 20 editions of 6 law enforcement academic textbooks. A new 8-volume interrogation book series will be released in 2014. And just released, a new children’s book called “BE FIT – DON’T QUIT.” His latest book on human potential called “Hashtag Peace” is at the editing stage. He just finished another book called “Lifter’s High.” Both will be released soon.